When It’s Time to Let Go: Facing the Fear of Leaving a Relationship

ave you ever been in a relationship that you didn’t want to be in? That feels like a child playing in a make-believe in a fort they can easily step out of?

Well this is me telling you that it’s easier to get out of then you think, it’s really not that hard.

Us as humans find it hard to leave someone or something that we hold so dearly, this is called an attachment drive, when we evolve we tend to want to be around people in a group, but now having that special girlfriend or boyfriend you think you’ll never be able to live without them, but you will. That’s exactly the next big problem we have, the fear of the unknown, like it was said we are afraid to be on our own, we can’t imagine being without this person, being alone, and not seeing what your future will look like anymore. And last, what if? “What if they move on and find someone better?” “What if I just wasted all my time with this person, and put all my energy into this person just for them to leave my life so quickly?” It’s such a haunting thing to think about, it can give you some kind of insecurity you would’ve thought you never had.

In reality it’ll never be that hard to get out of such a relationship. The faster you leave someone you don’t even want to be in a relationship with the better your life will be. You won’t even realize it in the moment that it is tearing you down and not only would your future be worse with that person but better to just leave while you can, if you notice these small things that set you off then just state why it makes you upset, if that other person doesn’t listen. They just simply don’t love you enough to listen.

Honestly there will never be a fix to these kinds of issues, nobody has the perfect life, no one is perfect, and nobody has a perfect relationship. There will always be problems but what matters is how you both try and fix these issues before they expand and get worse, or if you or the other person listen and solve these issues.

In conclusion, leaving that relationship that is just so simple to get out of but you feel bad and cave is never the way to go. You should always be honest about your feelings. If you don’t want a relationship and this other person is begging you, you still gotta go, no point in staying if it ruins your life, and in return will ruin theirs. I think some people should just take a look at their life and what they truly want and then see if they are ready for a relationship.